Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. [Leo Tolstoy in Anna Karenina]
My friends brought to my attention the blog of a woman scorned who, after 10 years of marriage, discovered her husband was spreading his oats elsewhere and how she has planned to deal with this unfortunate event. We have no intention of going into what we think of the husbands dalliance, no, that I leave for others. She has a launched a campaign to salvage the marriage. To not bore you further with my stories, let us hear she has planned the game
she refuses to speak to her husband until he is “born again”[ I hope you know what that means]. She instead chose to speak to him through other people, blogs, TV interviews and […] to win her relationship back.
All we ask is when they met, she didn’t treat us to the show of love, why now when things have hit a head does she want people to get involved. The sweet nothings she was told, were all in private, they can resolve this matter privately with Jesus[pun intended]
She says in the next paragraph
My life completely changed for the better when I discovered my husband had been unfaithful in our marriage.
Unless there is a typo, yours truly doesn’t know why she is complaining. But maybe there is more, let us read on, shall we?
[…]I realized what I had believed in as my destiny was not what god’s plan for me was.
What was this plan
to share my life with my husband till death do us part.
Reading on, she tells us
I am currently living a new life from the one I knew and am loving it.
Yours truly wonders why, if at all, she is loving it, why does she want him back?
Moving on, there are very interesting revelations from the horse’s own mouth.
She tells us, she no longer answers his calls, doesn’t speak to him. In short, we gather she has resolved to publicly shame him. She tells us
in order to get saved, god made me face my greatest fear which was being rejected by a man I loved. It is true that I was proud. I believed that I was all that and my husband was lucky to have me as his wife.
yours truly would want to know saved from what and to become what? I truly would want to understand what happens when you get saved, for it seems it is not written in her piece.
She tells us, in her own words,
I believe my husband can get saved because god is using me to make my husband face his greatest fear. God never fails and cannot ever be defeated. My husband will get saved. You wait and see.
I bet her husband’s greatest fear, if at all he has any was this day and I don’t know about you, but I don’t see why if she believes her god is powerful as she wants us to believe does she have to choose such a demeaning way to get her husband saved. Isn’t it easy for her god to just tell the husband, you are saved, to spare us this public humiliation.
I find it interesting that she has gone to the level of posting his mobile phone number so that people can call him to tell him to get saved. Yours truly will not call him, but I have a message for him, should he by luck land on this blog. You don’t need to get saved. You can go to her apologize and promise not to sleep around and if you do, not to be caught and continue with your life together or call it quits and while at it sue her for libel, slander and whatever else lawyers use in such scenarios. If you go that line, she may file for divorce and depending on which case is dealt with first, your ass maybe fried!
To Njeri, wake up. Belief in superstition isn’t taking you anywhere. I was not at your wedding, but as a standard, your vows must have included the words what god has put together, no man can put asunder. It is evident, unless you choose not to see, that one party, named god, the same god you are saying has saved you, has failed to keep his promise. Now is the time to wake up and realize god is not going to do shit! If you don’t end this madness, you will continue living the new life you are now enjoying and his life will not stop. He will still get laid. You must realize those words by your pastor didn’t mean much or how do you explain the women who have wrecked your bliss? You can end this whole social media war and talk with your husband, that is if your want to be with him. Humiliating him in public does no good in making you friends or reconciling and if this is the advice you got from your church, you don’t need it. Use your brains in a more rational way. None of us were party to your dating scenes, your disagreements should remain between you, your family and maybe close friends. Come down from your ivory tower, it has no foundation and decide which way you want to go. Am not going to tell you to go back or quit, that you’ll resolve on your own, am telling you to handle this in a more civil way. I also don’t mean to say you shouldn’t feel hurt, by all means cry a river, but once you finish crying, wipe your tears and be firm with whatever route you choose to take. You have this one life, try to make it as pleasant as you can.
You my friends, I know have quite a lot to add here. Am the last person who should be giving marriage advice.