Let us call this madness

Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. [Leo Tolstoy in Anna Karenina]

My friends brought to my attention the blog of a woman scorned who, after 10 years of marriage, discovered her husband was spreading his oats elsewhere and how she has planned to deal with this unfortunate event. We have no intention of going into what we think of the husbands dalliance, no, that I leave for others. She has a launched a campaign to salvage the marriage. To not bore you further with my stories, let us hear she has planned the game

she refuses to speak to her husband until he is “born again”[ I hope you know what that means]. She instead chose to speak to him through other people, blogs, TV interviews and […] to win her relationship back.

All we ask is when they met, she didn’t treat us to the show of love, why now when things have hit a head does she want people to get involved. The sweet nothings she was told, were all in private, they can resolve this matter privately with Jesus[pun intended]

She says in the next paragraph

My life completely changed for the better when I discovered my husband had been unfaithful in our marriage.

Unless there is a typo, yours truly doesn’t know why she is complaining. But maybe there is more, let us read on, shall we?

[…]I realized what I had believed in as my destiny was not what god’s plan for me was.

What was this plan

to share my life with my husband till death do us part.

Reading on, she tells us

I am currently living a new life from the one I knew and am loving it.

Yours truly wonders why, if at all, she is loving it, why does she want him back?

Moving on, there are very interesting revelations from the horse’s own mouth.

She tells us, she no longer answers his calls, doesn’t speak to him. In short, we gather she has resolved to publicly shame him. She tells us

in order to get saved, god made me face my greatest fear which was being rejected by a man I loved. It is true that I was proud. I believed that I was all that and my husband was lucky to have me as his wife.

yours truly would want to know saved from what and to become what? I truly would want to understand what happens when you get saved, for it seems it is not written in her piece.

She tells us, in her own words,

I believe my husband can get saved because god is using me to make my husband face his greatest fear. God never fails and cannot ever be defeated. My husband will get saved. You wait and see.

I bet her husband’s greatest fear, if at all he has any was this day and I don’t know about you, but I don’t see why if she believes her god is powerful as she wants us to believe does she have to choose such a demeaning way to get her husband saved. Isn’t it easy for her god to just tell the husband, you are saved, to spare us this public humiliation.

I find it interesting that she has gone to the level of posting his mobile phone number so that people can call him to tell him to get saved. Yours truly will not call him, but I have a message for him, should he by luck land on this blog. You don’t need to get saved. You can go to her apologize and promise not to sleep around and if you do, not to be caught and continue with your life together or call it quits and while at it sue her for libel, slander and whatever else lawyers use in such scenarios. If you go that line, she may file for divorce and depending on which case is dealt with first, your ass maybe fried!

To Njeri, wake up. Belief in superstition isn’t taking you anywhere. I was not at your wedding, but as a standard, your vows must have included the words what god has put together, no man can put asunder. It is evident, unless you choose not to see, that one party, named god, the same god you are saying has saved you, has failed to keep his promise. Now is the time to wake up and realize god is not going to do shit! If you don’t end this madness, you will continue living the new life you are now enjoying and his life will not stop. He will still get laid. You must realize those words by your pastor didn’t mean much or how do you explain the women who have wrecked your bliss? You can end this whole social media war and talk with your husband, that is if your want to be with him. Humiliating him in public does no good in making you friends or reconciling and if this is the advice you got from your church, you don’t need it. Use your brains in a more rational way. None of us were party to your dating scenes, your disagreements should remain between you, your family and maybe close friends. Come down from your ivory tower, it has no foundation and decide which way you want to go. Am not going to tell you to go back or quit, that you’ll resolve on your own, am telling you to handle this in a more civil way. I also don’t mean to say you shouldn’t feel hurt, by all means cry a river, but once you finish crying, wipe your tears and be firm with whatever route you choose to take. You have this one life, try to make it as pleasant as you can.

You my friends, I know have quite a lot to add here. Am the last person who should be giving marriage advice.

Kenyan woman, Njeri, turns to social and mainstream media to save her marriage

There is everything wrong with this statement

“How to Become an Atheist: by, Living Waters / The Way of the Master–If you are thinking of becoming an atheist, beware. The first step is easy, but it’s not so easy to walk the walk. You will have to ignore design when you can see it everywhere: in the universe, the atoms, the birds and the bees, the clouds and trees, the seasons, the human body, fish, flowers, fruits, feet, and even fungus. And… of course, there is the amazing-looking human eye. Everywhere you look and everywhere you can’t look with the human eye you will see incredible design. Now here’s the really difficult part. You will need to believe that everything man-made: cars, computers, and candies were made by man, etc., but deny that everything in nature–cattle, camels, and cabbages, etc., were made at all. It came from nothing, with no Maker. Once you have done this, crown yourself as being intelligent. Then you will need to find other atheists who believe as you do, and they will confirm to you that you are indeed intelligent. You will also need to believe that evolution is true and that you’re an ape and therefore you are not morally responsible because apes have no moral absolutes. Never forget to always give God a small “g,” and learn believers’ phrases such as “Evolution is a proven fact,” and “I have no beliefs in any gods.” Do these things, and you will be able to call yourself a “new” atheist. How cool is that! Well, not really. You can¹t be a true atheist because you need absolute knowledge to say that there is no God. Besides, you intuitively know that He exists. Still, for sin-loving sinners the benefits of atheism are great in this life. But not the next. So you are really not an atheist, and to keep with your sinful lifestyle I guess you will just have to pretend to be one.

If How to Become an atheist is a book, yours truly hasn’t read it and doesn’t not, even by a long shot, plan to do so. Secondly, if this is the  opening statement, then, I submit that the author is a fool and a silly person.  That said, this paragraph from the said book is so wrong, every bit of it and in a short while yours truly will demonstrate why this is the case.

We are told the first step is easy and all that is expected is we have to ignore apparent design in nature. This is the argument from design couched in bad language. Design signifies purpose. A car is designed to get Jane for point A to B on a road designed by Joyce and constructed to some specification. The maker of the car designs it with a purpose in mind from the onset.  As far as we can tell, this isn’t true for naturally occurring things, unless of course we say an earthquake is so designed to cause havoc and kill as many people as is possible or that a lion is designed with paws just so that it can kill antelopes, then this designer has a cruel sense of humour! And yes, the eye- complexity- Behe’s irreducible complexity; good try but there is nothing that stops the eye from developing to its current state over an extended period of time.

We are asked to either accept they were made by his particular god or they have no maker. One would want to ask why would they need a maker? Is he saying nature isn’t sufficiently powerful to bring into existence atoms so organised that on the one hand we have a stone and on the other a cow or on the other a snake? We then ask, what is this thing you call god? How can a something you don’t know be responsible for what is? How can we know this god or gods have done anything in our universe?

And I make no apologies for being intelligent. I know that I don’t know. It requires diligent and honest study to come to the conclusion that beauty in the things we observe in the universe doesn’t prove god. The most I can infer from my eyes is that I have eyes, nothing in my having eyes would translate to the existence of a god. That would be stretching it.

Well, evolution has nothing to do with my atheism. If the theory of evolution through natural selection were to be disproved, by another scientific explanation, I will still be a naturalist. Atheism is the lack of belief in the existence of gods. There is nothing in the definition of atheism that requires you to understand and accept its truth. It is for this reason there are a whole lot of christians who accept the truth of evolution albeit they contend their non existent god set it rolling. There are no moral absolutes. This argument has been advanced by Craig who argues for a Divine Command Theory. This problem was put to rest many eons ago by the divine Plato. And moral responsibility is best answered when we consider whether our actions are free or not. I intend not to talk about that here.

If it pains you that we write your god as god, you need to deal with your ego issues.

One doesn’t need absolute knowledge to determine the question of the existence of god. In fact, when you take time to think carefully through this question, one needs just a little common sense to come to the conclusion there are no gods and the ones that exist have been created by men in their own images. We have not been told what god is to even start the discussion of whether such a thing really can exist. No, you don’t intuitively know that god exists, you are told what god to believe in depending on which village you happen to have found yourself. If your are Hindu too bad, there are a million gods, if christian you are confused between whether it is one god or three or one in three or three in one and a god that wants to punish for looking at a lady’s beautiful legs and having some right ideas form in your head or you would still be unlucky if you are muslim and your god through his prophet expects you to show everyone your other face at least five times a day 😛

Sin, if they are offenses against a god, then such do not exist for such a thing as god in non existent. And again, it is wishful man who wants to live forever, imagines a heaven and populates with people who believe as he does. What an idle thought!

And finally, it is condescending and borders on rude to say that rational people who have outgrown superstition and are comfortable with living this one beautiful life, are sinful just because they don’t believe as you do. And if you are moral because of the say so of a person who purports to speak for your god, then we have every reason to be wary of you and should give you a wide berth for it is hard to tell you will not kill me on the say so of your supposed god.