Quotable quotes: love

To love one’s self at the expense of one’s fellow is for selfishness to become malignancy. To love one’s neighbor more than one’s self is foolishness and self destruction.

A man’s value to society by Hillis, Newel Dwight

About makagutu

As Onyango Makagutu I am Kenyan, as far as I am a man, I am a citizen of the world

18 thoughts on “Quotable quotes: love

  1. Mordanicus says:

    Great quote. Personally I would prefer compassion to (obsessive) love.


  2. aguywithoutboxers says:

    Interesting quote, my Nairobi brother. I need to think about this one. I think i agree but with a few qualifications. Much love and naked hugs! ๐Ÿ™‚


  3. archaeopteryx1 says:

    From Lebanese poet, Kalil Gibran, on Love:

    Love has no other desire but to fulfill itself.
    But if you love and must needs have desires, let these be your desires:
    To melt and be like a running brook that sings its melody to the night.
    To know the pain of too much tenderness.
    To be wounded by your own understanding of love;
    And to bleed willingly and joyfully.
    To wake at dawn with a winged heart and give thanks for another day of loving;
    To rest at the noon hour and meditate love’s ecstasy;
    To return home at eventide with gratitude;
    And then to sleep with a prayer for the beloved in your heart and a song of praise upon your lips.


  4. themodernidiot says:

    I think that if you have the opportunity to start your sentence with,”I love…” Then you are fine. The other two options are,”I hate…” Or worse,”I don’t care…”

    No need to question if it’s hooked to the tail of happiness.

    If it is hanging onto sadness, it is no longer love ๐Ÿ™‚

    Just my two cents.

    Much happy love to you all!


  5. shelldigger says:

    Off the cuff, love is your deepest desire fulfilled, your expectations met with no price tag (emotionally), your child through no prompting giving you a big hug and saying “I love you.” That look in your lovers eye that says everything you need to know. Last but not least, the ability to look in the worst places to make sure there isn’t a tick there or to determine some other medical malady that may need attention.


    • makagutu says:

      Krishnamurti may disagree with you on the part of desires fulfilled being love. Here is a small conversation he is having with some group

      Question: Is there not an end of love? Is love based on attraction?

      Krishnamurti: Suppose you are attracted by a beautiful river, by a beautiful woman, or by a man. What is wrong with that? We are trying to find out. You see, when I am attracted to a woman, to a man or to a child or to truth or to a person, what happens? I want to be with it, I want to possess it, I want to call it my own; I say that it is mine and that it is not yours. I am attracted to that person, I must be near that person, my body must be near that person’s body. So, what have I done? What generally happens? The fact is that I am attracted, and I want to be near that person; that is a fact, not an ideal. And also the fact is that when I am attracted and I want to possess, there is no love. My concern is with the fact and not with what I should be. Well, when I possess a person, I do not want that person to look at anybody else. When I consider that person as mine, is there love? Obviously not. The moment my mind creates a hedge round that person, as the ‘mine’, there is no love.

      The fact is my mind is doing that all the time. That is what we are discussing, to see how the mind is working and perhaps, being aware of it, the mind itself will be quiet.

      and I tend to agree with him though I still don’t have the right words to define what I would term as love.


      • archaeopteryx1 says:

        I’m not sure I do, he sounds a bit self-absorbed. I prefer Browning’s outlook: “I love you, not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you.”


      • shelldigger says:

        Interesting perspective, I’m a married guy and though I do not possess my wife as a slave or a marketable item, I certainly would like her to stay and be with with me exclusively.

        That does not mean she is not free to leave anytime she feels like it. The door is there all day long 24/7. If she feels like calling it quits, she has every right to do so.

        On the one hand I see no possible way to humanely possess another person, but of course in a mate one would at the very least desire monogamy. If a person cannot demonstrate loyalty to some extent, it is worth considering in what other ways are they deceiving you?

        …and a fulfillment of ones deepest desires need not be related to sex, though in can be occaisionally ๐Ÿ™‚


  6. shelldigger says:

    Likewise sir. ๐Ÿ™‚

    The ‘”desire to possess” is a little strong in a sense. I think the desire to have an equal reciprocation of trust, loyalty, and desire, would be a better way to look at it. I possess a car, a bicycle, a lot of tools, and the chair I’m sitting in.

    Possess is a little too harsh when you consider how that translates to the human condition, which ideally would lend a certain level of autonomous freedoms. I am reminded of overly religious types who think of women and children as possessions. This has always struck me as a basic human rights violation. Nevermind the rest of the religious mumbo jumbo.

    Love as a description of what lies between two people in a relationship, could not have the word possess in the definition. At least in my book…


  7. shelldigger says:

    Mak my friend, if there is one thing I have been fairly certain of for quite some time…I ain’t much like most people. ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Take care…


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