Question: Why does one feel the necessity of love?

KRISHNAMURTI: You mean why do we have to have love? Why should there be love? Can we do without it? What would happen if you did not have this so-called love? If your parents began to think out why they love you, you might not be here. They might throw you out. They think they love you; therefore, they want to protect you, they want to see you educated, they feel that they must give you every opportunity to be something. This feeling of protection, this feeling of wanting you to be educated, this feeling that you belong to them is what they generally call love. Without it, what would happen? What would happen if your parents did not love you? You would be neglected, you would be something inconvenient, you would be pushed out, they would hate you. So, fortunately, there is this feeling of love, perhaps clouded, perhaps besmirched and ugly, but there is still that feeling, fortunately for you and me; otherwise, you and I would not have been educated, would not exist.

Ninth Talk at Rajghat on Love and Loneliness by Krishnamurti

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As Onyango Makagutu I am Kenyan, as far as I am a man, I am a citizen of the world

53 thoughts on “Question: Why does one feel the necessity of love?

  1. archaeopteryx1 says:

    If that’s his attitude on love, I can see why he’d be lonely.


  2. melouisef says:

    I understand it in the light of evolution, if you are ‘loved’


  3. melouisef says:

    You will be looked after, fed and protected and you will survive!


  4. says:

    There are so many forms of love, to give and receive as well.


  5. A difficult word, especially within families. Love, familiarity, companionship, closeness, friendship, obligation? Who can say.


    • makagutu says:

      one thing am sure about, I can’t say. It is a difficult topic for me


      • I can’t either. Been in a relationship for years but how to define it? And parental love? Hmmm


        • makagutu says:

          I hear people talk about it, maybe I should do a poll and ask for definitions or what people have in mind. I could learn something


          • Very complex. But go for it. Do you love your annoying parents after forty or fifty years? The same for your spouse? Can’t comment about kids. Where does friendship, and companionship stop or love start? Or does it even need to when there is empathy.

            I can’t tell you what love is.


            • makagutu says:

              In the Brothers Karamazov, at the trial of Dmitri, the question is implied whether one has to love a parent who hasn’t cared for you just because he is your father?

              You ask tough questions. I am clueless as to what love is and where it would begin if it does begin.


  6. john zande says:

    You see, this is what frustrates me generally with Indians: they over-think things and come across as being desperately anal.


  7. There are various perspectives on “love.” Some see it as a singular emotional state which manifests itself in different ways. Some make distinctions with respect to compassion, empathy, kinship, loyalty, and romance. The former is typically feminine, while the latter is a more masculine view. For example, women equate sex with love more readily than men… at least in my experience.


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