By Katherine Angel
Is a book I would recommend for those still actively having sex or who plan to get some action in the future.
In it she addresses the issues surrounding consent especially following #metoo and other campaigns aimed at addressing sexual violence against women( especially women because they are overly represented in the number victims of sexual violence) and explored whether that active consent is a sufficient guarantee that women will be safe.
She explores arousal, desire, vulnerability and asks some very pointed questions. Many times men are won’t to say that women when they say no actually mean yes or that their bodies speak a different language which is not said for men. It is argued that the female body is disconnected from her person. And this unfortunately has been used in legal cases to argue against rape where defendants have said the woman was wet and so she must have wanted it, regardless of her protestations.
A very interesting question or theme that runs through the book is how can sex research which claim to be objective give us any results when sex is removed from its very subjective context of negotiation, desire, arousal and all those things we associate with sex?
Sex she argues is political. Especially in the manner in which the female body and desire is policed. And asks whether to demand that women be performative in the sex game will lead to any liberation? Is it the panacea to sexual violence? I don’t think so.
Go read the book. Happy week everyone and have some good sex while at it.
Random thoughts 
As a same gender loving married man, I’ve only one thought to offer. There are many who argue that the physical response negates any lack of consent. This, as you acknowledged, is absolutely not true. The body responds to sensual stimulation whereas the mind knows for a fact that consent is not warranted or even desired. Have a wonderful week! 🙂 Bare hugs!
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Have a wonderful week, Roger.
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Thanks, my Kenyan brother! 😉
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Any time my brother
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Somehow, over the years, I seem to have forgotten what this word means. Does it have something to do with running? 😁
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Hahaha Nan. No, it has something to do with workhorses
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@Nan.
A famous basketball coach is once reported to have said: ”It’s not sex before a game that is the problem but the time spent chasing after it.”
So, yes, Nan, in a sense it does have something to do with running.
😉
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As an after thought. Maybe you shouldn’t throw away those sneakers just yet?
🙂
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Talking of not throwing the sneakers yet, I think Mark Twain made this point in Letters from the earth regarding relative performance of the sexes against customs around performance.
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Hahahaha.
Ark, this is a good one
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a nice thought bubble, to be considered in case I get borne again, otherwise, I must agree with the comment above.
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Hopefully you get borne again soon and forget all your sins 🙂
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Glad to see you recommending the book, too. I adored this book and wrote a review (of sorts) interweaving it with a commentary about the film Promising Young Woman. The film is well worth a watch (and my article about the book and the film is worth a read 😉.
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I will check out the film and probably your article too.
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