How things change

When I was young, but not so young, gender referred to the expectations society had of the male and female members of society. In those days, if one acted contrary to the expectations society had of their gender, it would be said of such a person acted like a man if the subject was a woman or vise versa. But there was really no change in the sex of that particular individual.

But now things have changed.

These days when one feels or acts contrary to society expectations, they can change not only their gender but even their sex. And to question such claims leads to one being labeled phobic.

Now that we are in the age of pronouns, what’s next? And because the other related question is of fairness, what happens?

But maybe I am wrong on all this and gender was always about pronouns.

About makagutu

As Onyango Makagutu I am Kenyan, as far as I am a man, I am a citizen of the world

26 thoughts on “How things change

  1. wuodflora says:

    This has kept me wondering. Nowadays when filling forms on gender you get a whole list but the most confusing part is the last 2 options are either ‘other’ or ‘rather not say’. I am still confused how someone cannot define their gender in a list of over 7 options. Now they have come up with terms such as ‘gender responsive’ and ‘people of diverse gender identities’. Please I need a new glossary on GENDER.

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  2. Tish Farrell says:

    I’m wondering how much of this is about confusing us all into a sense of complete insecurity about anything and everything.Everything we thought we knew is now a maelstrom of ‘isms’ and labels. Confused people robbed of their powers of discretion, and fearful of offending too, tend to be easier to control.

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    • wuodflora says:

      I have resolved to calling people by their names,no titles, pronouns because it’s too confusing. U find a name James his/him/hiz n u wonder what happened to what we knew

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      • Tish Farrell says:

        In the UK I’ve found the pronounism seems now to be a particular feature of local government personnel categorisation, used for example when they sign off in email communications. In other words, in situations where you would be unlikely to be even using their chosen attached pronouns. So yes, calling people by their names seems to be they only answer.


    • makagutu says:

      And this is one area where offense is easily taken. But it is all totally confusing

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  3. I generally feel another person’s gender or sexuality is none of my business. So if they introduce themselves to me as Haile Selassie, I presume I should call them by that name. I could call him the guy from what will one day be the We Are The Children Country — but that’s less catchy.

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  4. Maybe, maybe not? Our cultures are now following those all specifying technological trends and it cannot be expected that languages, in general, to be immune from those influences.

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  5. ladysighs says:

    I’m reminded of a song by Gene Travis. “Sometimes I Feel Like A Nut”
    Sometimes I Don’t.

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  6. Barry says:

    As far as third person singular pronouns go, unless I am certain of the person’s preference, I simply use they/them/their. I question the need for gender specific pronouns. The other two languages I have a little knowledge of (Japanese and Mฤori) don’t have gender specific pronouns at all. It’s about time English did away with them too. They are well past their use by date.

    I was going to comment on your first paragraph as it contradicts completely my experience, but it ended up being far too long. Let me just say that I still bear some physical scars (and possibly some emotional ones as well) that prove to me beyond doubt that acting contrary to the expectations society had of one’s gender brought forth the wrath of society. in this respect females had much more leeway than males.


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