Tomorrow sex will be good again

By Katherine Angel

Is a book I would recommend for those still actively having sex or who plan to get some action in the future.

In it she addresses the issues surrounding consent especially following #metoo and other campaigns aimed at addressing sexual violence against women( especially women because they are overly represented in the number victims of sexual violence) and explored whether that active consent is a sufficient guarantee that women will be safe.

She explores arousal, desire, vulnerability and asks some very pointed questions. Many times men are won’t to say that women when they say no actually mean yes or that their bodies speak a different language which is not said for men. It is argued that the female body is disconnected from her person. And this unfortunately has been used in legal cases to argue against rape where defendants have said the woman was wet and so she must have wanted it, regardless of her protestations.

A very interesting question or theme that runs through the book is how can sex research which claim to be objective give us any results when sex is removed from its very subjective context of negotiation, desire, arousal and all those things we associate with sex?

Sex she argues is political. Especially in the manner in which the female body and desire is policed. And asks whether to demand that women be performative in the sex game will lead to any liberation? Is it the panacea to sexual violence? I don’t think so.

Go read the book. Happy week everyone and have some good sex while at it.

On consent

When I started this blog, I think 7 years ago, I wasn’t sure it would last this long. I wasn’t even sure what I would write after the first few blog posts, but here we are. I hope all you who drop by find something useful, interesting, pleasurable or thought provoking as a take away.

And critics like Brian who are charitable in their disagreement. You make this a worthwhile venture. And all of you who make this blog great through your interactions, thank you.

But I digress.

There is a case in UK about consent between a man and his ailing wife and the comments of the judge is already raising heat.

On the same theme, three court of appeal judges have forced on a debate on Kenyans regarding the age of consent. One of the matters raised is the about lowering the age of consent from 18 to 16 and the issue of disproportionate punishment meted on boys for having sex with their agemates who later sometimes end up being treated as sex offenders.

What are your thoughts on either of the two matters.