teenage marriage in Iraq

I found this article to be quite disturbing, and that is to say a lot.

Clerics are grooming vulnerable girls in Iraq and offering them for sex, using a controversial religious practice known as “pleasure marriage”.

It points to two things; a failed system that makes exploitation possible and morbid relationship with sex where avenues for adults who are not married and want to indulge are closed by religious strictures. So the men and clerics have developed a clever ploy to beat the religion and in the process exploit vulnerable girls.

I think everyday there is something somewhere to be enraged about.

Pedophilia

In Nabokov’s Lolita,Humbert Humbert is attracted to a 12 year old girl.

Mark Greif in Against Everything, suggests that those who dreamed of sexual liberation did not go far enough. They should have said, he writes

Sex is a biological function—and for that reason no grounds to persecute anyone. It is truthless—you must not bring force to bear on people for the basic, biological, and private; you may not persecute them on grounds so accidental. You must leave them alone, neither forcing them to deny their sex nor to bring it into the light.

He, Greif, asks why is there an allure in youth and answers

Youth is more effective precisely because it is something all of us are always losing.

When we look back, we were once youth, it is the familiar. When we look ahead, all adults (those older than us) are strangers, for we have never been old.

Then comes this TEDx talk

This should be an interesting discussion. I can’t wait to hear your thoughts on this.

Random things

This is not a story.

When I last wrote about Somalia, I mentioned they had retained their language having been colonized by France, Britain, Italy and some parts under Ethiopian domination. You see on the one hand, I think we, as Africans ( I must admit here the difficulty of having a precise definition of who an African is) have to decolonize the mind. Suggestions have been made to decolonize the social sciences and language education (pdf). There is need for a common language and it doesn’t have to be English which my professor thinks is not rich and I tend to agree because I swear, there were occasions in Somalia I felt so frustrated.

Nabokov in Lolita broaches a very *delicate* topic in sexuality- pedophilia. I am not going to discuss Nabokov’s book, I suggest you read it for yourself. The reason I bring it up is because of another book, this time by Mark Greif; Against Everything where he argues the sex revolution of the 60s and 70s did not liberate sex but led to a liberalization of sex. He argues we will be able to talk about sex liberation only when it is thought of as we would a coffee date. On the subject of pedophilia he asks why the allure in youth when all the adults who engage in it were once youth?

In the same book by Greif talking about Octomom, he makes some very interesting critique of the media in the US of A but this can apply at home here too. He says when the financial meltdown happened in 2008-09, the media concentrated on a woman-Nadya and a Jew- Maddoff but not the bank and insurance execs who swindled peoples savings while these were known to them. The same seems to be happening here with our faux outrage on corruption. The media’s fingers seems to be tied. They can’t bring themselves to type the name of the banks or name the individuals involved in these banks but splash pictures of hapless conduits. For shame, the mainstream media. You are complicit in the crimes committed by governments and their operatives.

To be continued…..